I want to move out to save our relationship. Will this work?
Question by Janet: I want to move out to save our relationship. Will this work?
So I’m not going to give you the long dramatic story of our relationship but there has been a lot of drama and a lot of pain – I’ll be fair and admit on both sides. Never cheated, I think we both trust each other in that department. we have so much passion and so much love but we fight on a daily basis. I mean screaming, throwing things really unhealthy crying fights
He has so many trust issues and takes everything I say personally and can get very hurtful. He says I argue all the time but my opinion is that he says hurtful things and I snap back and then I argue.. His “arguing” is anything that I don’t agree with him on, even if it’s just my opinion. When he asks my opinion after he tells me his side I am “sticking up for everyone but him” I also feel demeaned a lot Eg: I started a small business and he laughed at me. “you call that a business?” Another thing is I do everything around the house and split the bills; I even take out the garbage/recycling and bring it back twice a week but I feel I don’t get anything in return – taken for granted. Then when i point it out it’s “don’t do it, I’ll do my own laundry” ok, enough complaining…
He says “I can’t take this anymore” probably 3-4 times a week so finally I told him I’ll find a place, he said ok. In my last straw type of deal. I found a place and now I’m adamant about moving out. Now, he’s upset and can’t believe I’m leaving him, he was just mad when he said all those things. Now he will get help. Now he is sorry. I am still moving out because I’ve heard that before.
I still love him. I don’t want another man, i don’t want to date. I want to see him still until he can become a friendly, more positive, less demeaning person (yes, he’s going to get therapy) I don’t want to take the chance of being hurt anymore because i know I will leave and never come back or we’ll hate each other, so if I move out, he gets help we still see each other, date and LIKE each other again right? We will cut our fighting in half because bills are out, laundry is out, chores, I can’t be taken for granted because I won’t be doing his stuff right? Then move back in when we are healed – isn’t that better?
Any thoughts or comments would help.. he doesn’t trust that I am doing this for us otherwise I would just leave. This is our last chance.
Best answer:
Answer by grace s
get out and stay out. just my opinion.
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